It’s the old way news was spread from neighbor to neighbor. It embodied the age-old tradition of leaning against your backyard fence to catch up on the latest scoop.
It involved a casual neighborly chat about local activity in the neighborhood. Updating each other about the latest news on local or family news. It was friendly and with good will, a way to connect and look out for one another.
But sometimes over the fence chat can become a lingering conversation not meant to be so lengthy. Sometimes a neighbor may have a need to engage but there are ways to keep it short.
“Hello Marge, good to see you, have a good day,” said Edith with a smile and her body turned away toward her Chevrolet.
“Hey Ed, good mornin’, wanna come over for some fresh coffee and donuts?” “I wish, Tom, but Helen has me scheduled to mow the lawn. Another time, my friend.”
Gabby to neighbor, “Have you noticed a Harley in Frenchy’s driveway?” “It’s been there for a day or so, I wonder what she’s up to, keep an eye on it. Update me later,” said Jaylene as she puts on her helmet, mounts her moped preparing for a ride.
Over the driveway to classmate and friend, “Ginnie Mae, I have something to ask you about our math class,” said Freddie. “Send me an email and I’ll text you later.”
“Reverend John, mornin’, what can I serve you?” said Loretta at Get and Go Coffee Stop. “Just an Expresso to go. The Lord can’t wait.” “I know you can’t wait, the coffee’s on me.”
Remember when we used to converse over the fence. We laughed and we shared news about family and friends. We swapped recipes, garden tomatoes and vegetables. We shared light hearted gossip and advice.
It was our old fashioned social network. It was casual and neighborly. It was friendly with light conversation. We knew we could count on each other and available when in need. Good neighbors are good friends.
Is it possible to create that old fashioned way to social connect with our neighbors?
Many people, particularly young families, find the appeal of old neighborhoods. The iconic charm of the housing with inviting front porches, stately trees, and shaded walks that pass along the way. Some would say ‘that feels like home’ and they made it their home.
Being neighborly simply means to be friendly and inviting to new neighbors and friends. Being a friend, as simple as that. It’s good for you and good for them. Foster it.
Copyright 2026 Frank Clark